Counseling for Infidelity & Trust
IN-PERSON & ONLINE IN MONTCLAIR, NJ
When trust is broken, everything can feel uncertain.
Betrayal can take many forms. It might be a physical affair, emotional cheating, secret online interactions, or dishonesty about money or substance use. However it happens, it changes what feels safe or certain.
“If this was hidden, what else could be?”
“Memories that used to feel special now make me question everything.”
“I don’t want to spend my life checking their phone.”
“Is my health at risk?”
“I always said I’d leave if this ever happened.”
“My family keeps asking questions, and I don’t know what to say.”
The partner who was betrayed often questions what’s true and how to feel safe again.
For the partner who broke trust, the mix of shame, guilt, and fear can lead to defensiveness, justification or retreat.
“I don’t want to lose my family.”
“I feel awful and don’t even know where to start.”
“I know I messed up, but it can’t all fall on me.”
“I’m trying to give space, but it just feels like more distance.”
“I don’t know how many times I can apologize, I just want to move forward.”
“I’m trying to be open, but it feels like every detail makes things worse.”
What we’ll work on
Therapy can help
Understand betrayal as trauma to heal from, not just “get over.”
Rebuild trust and communication at a pace that feels manageable.
Shift from defensiveness toward accountability and empathy.
Learn how to have honest conversations without causing more harm.
Explore what repair, forgiveness, or closure might look like for you.
Reconnect emotionally and physically in ways that feel safe again.
Regain a sense of steadiness and choice about what comes next.