Therapy Services for Intimacy & Sexual Wellbeing in Montclair, NJ
IN-PERSON & ONLINE
“Take your pleasure seriously.”
— Charles and Ray Eames
Sex is something deeply human, but it is often hard to talk about intimacy issues. There are ideas about how it should look, how often it should happen, and what it should mean.
Some people have had experiences that were unsafe, harmful, or confusing. Add in the influence of family, culture, and social media, along with changes that come with age or shifts in our bodies, and it can become hard to know what we want or how to talk about it.
Taking pleasure seriously means recognizing how those influences shape us, but don’t define us. Counseling from a certified sex therapist in Montclair can help you notice what’s changed and explore what’s possible.
Because pleasure isn’t frivolous; it’s a way of knowing yourself, with honesty and agency.
When it comes to sex or intimacy, people often find themselves saying things like…”
Because pleasure deserves curiosity and care.
“When my partner’s not in the mood, I feel rejected.”
“I’ve never really felt comfortable in my body.”
“I WANT to want it, but the pressure makes it worse.”
“I enjoy sex but don’t always know how to ask for what I like.”
“I can’t relax, I’m in my head, worried about how I’m performing.”
“I want to understand what I actually enjoy, not what I think I should.”
What we’ll work on
Therapy can help
Explore your relationship to pleasure, desire, and connection through a sex-positive, affirming approach guided by a professional intimacy therapist in Montclair.
Understand how early messages about sex, gender, or bodies still shape what feels comfortable today, and how those beliefs can evolve.
Reframe outdated ideas about what’s “normal” when it comes to intimacy, desire, or frequency.
Learn accurate, inclusive sex education that supports pleasure, communication, and consent for everyone involved.
Explore past sexual experiences or trauma that may still impact trust, or confidence.
Strengthen communication around needs, and comfort, so that intimacy feels mutual and authentic.
Offer support for LGBTQ+ clients and non-traditional relationships, including poly and CNM.
FAQS
Common questions about sex therapy
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Not unless you want to. We move at your pace. Sex therapy is about helping you feel comfortable talking about things that matter, without shame or pressure.
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All kinds. Married, partnered, dating, open, polyamorous, queer, questioning, or somewhere in between. Sex therapy is about understanding your connection to yourself and others, not fitting into a specific box.
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Not at all. Sex therapy can be for anyone wanting to better understand their sexual concerns, experiences, or desires.
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No, sessions are conversations only. The work happens through talking, reflection, and learning.
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That’s something we can approach gently and at your comfort level. Therapy can help you reconnect with your body, rebuild a sense of safety, and explore intimacy at a pace that feels right for you.
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This space is inclusive and affirming. Whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, queer, or questioning, sex therapy can help you understand your needs and values without judgment.