Therapy Services for Individuals in Montclair, NJ
In person & Online
Get to know and heal yourself, part by part.
“I am constantly being encouraged to pluck out one aspect of myself and present this as the meaningful whole, eclipsing or denying the other parts of self.”
― Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches
Every part of us has a story and a reason for being here.
Some parts learned to protect, others hold pain or carry the weight of what we’ve been through. They formed from early roles we played, lessons about what was safe to show, and ways we learned to stay connected or survive.
In therapy, we get curious about these parts, not to change or silence them, but to understand what they’ve been trying to do for us and what they might need now.
You might recognize some of these parts in yourself:
People-Pleasing
Looks like: Over-apologizing, carrying more than your share, hyper-independence.
Feels like: resentment, exhaustion, unseen, insecurity.
Anxiety
Looks like: scanning for danger, imagining “what ifs,” & worst-case scenarios.
Feels like: tense, distracted, unable to relax, anhedonia.
Grief
Looks like: withdrawing, unexpected tears.
Feels like: sadness, emptiness, longing.
Anger
Looks like: snapping at others, slamming doors, storming off.
Feels like: hot, explosive, scary.
Perfectionism
Looks like: triple-checking emails, needing things to be “just right.”
Feels like: worry, being drained, stress, burnout.
An Inner Critic
Looks like: replaying conversations, second-guessing decisions.
Feels like: shame, heaviness, never measuring up.
What we’ll work on
Therapy can help
Stay present when something hard comes up, instead of shutting down, over explaining, or lashing out.
Build more compassion for yourself, even for the parts you’ve wanted to change.
Find new ways to relate to yourself, your body, and the people who matter to you.
Experience relief from anxiety and stress as you build these connections.
Create more room inside for calm, confidence, and connection.
Receive guidance and support for depression, low motivation, or burnout
Understand what each part is trying to help you avoid, hold onto or heal from.
FAQS
Common questions about individual therapy
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That’s a fair concern, and a common one. It’s important to be able to say when something in therapy doesn’t feel helpful or when you’re feeling stuck. Those conversations often open up what’s most meaningful.
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That’s a great question. Not everyone connects with worksheets or traditional “homework.” While reflection between sessions can be helpful, we’ll find what fits your learning style, whether that’s through conversation, noticing patterns in real time, or creative ways of integrating what comes up in therapy.
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Sometimes we’ll talk about what’s happening right now; other times, we’ll slow down and notice what’s happening inside you, the thoughts, emotions, body cues, or the parts that take over in certain situations. I might bring in mindfulness, journaling, or creative prompts when it helps things click in a different way. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s understanding yourself with more clarity and compassion.
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It’s a way of understanding the different sides of ourselves, creating space for healing and growth. You can read more about Internal Family Systems and other types of parts work here
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You can request a free 15-minute consult to talk briefly about what’s been happening and what you’re looking for. It’s a chance to see if we’re a good fit before scheduling a session.
If you already know you’d like to begin, you can book a session directly through the client portal. You’ll be able to choose your time, complete intake forms, and get started right away.