Mini Starts
A FEW THINGS TO GET YOU GOING. DESIGNED TO BE USEFUL.
Notice it. Name it.
We might recognize ourselves in each of these patterns, but one usually feels most familiar.
The shift happens when you notice where you tend to go in a conflict and then naming it:
“Oh, we’re doing that pursue/distance thing again where I push to talk and you pull away.”
Time out, not shut out.
Think of this as a “pause button,” not an eject button. A time-out gives you both room to reset so you can actually hear each other again.
Post-Session Reflection
Even just a few minutes of journaling post-therapy helps your brain connect insights and experiences. Taking a few minutes to note what stood out or what still feels active helps strengthen the pathways that support growth.
In-person clients receive a printed zine for a screen-free, analog way to reflect. You can also download and print one at home; it folds into a small booklet if you’re feeling creative.